Just the phrase “wedding planning” can cause brides-to-be to need a deep cleansing breath. Being engaged is supposed to be one of the most magical times of your life – and it is – but planning a wedding is also STRESSFUL. It can basically be a full-time job on top of your own 9-5.

That’s why so many brides opt to work with a wedding planning pro. When it comes to wedding planners, there are so many different  things they can help you with. The main job of a wedding planner goes beyond just pulling together details and making plans for you. The best wedding planners “fill in all the gaps and allow you to be a guest at your own wedding,” says Sarah Blessinger, the wedding planner behind Kindred Weddings & Events.

Sarah from Kindred Weddings & Events

Sarah Kindred Wed Events
Photo: Simply Adri Photography

Sarah has helped plan and execute some absolutely gorgeous weddings (*ahem* like my girl Jessie Kuruc’s big day!). I had the chance to chat with Sarah to get the inside scoop on how to find the right wedding planner for you, how to be a guest at your own wedding, and why your wedding day isn’t really all about you. Here are Sarah’s top tips.

Who’s the right wedding planner for you? Think of it this way…
One of my main questions for Sarah was where and how to even begin finding a wedding planner. I’ve heard about so many different categories when it comes to wedding planners – from day-of coordinators to full-suite planners.

Sarah’s advice is to “start by thinking about how much hand holding you want through the process of planning everything.”

Start by thinking about how much hand holding you want through the process of planning everything.

Do you have all of the big-vision-ideas and nitty-gritty-details figured out? If so, then you might just need a day-of coordinator to run the show on the big day. Want more inspiration and help in creating the perfect day? Wedding planners offer packages for that, too. Either way, you want to “be able to hand everything over to someone and be a guest at your own wedding,” says Sarah.

How to be a guest at your own wedding
Sarah talked a lot about “being a guest at your own wedding” which I think we all can agree is #BrideGoals (though I would amend it slightly to say be The Guest at your own wedding 😉

Without a wedding planner or day-of coordinator, it would be practically impossible to totally be a guest at your wedding. Tons of energy, excitement, and details will happen on your big day, so work with someone who can help keep them straight for you so you can enjoy your wedding.

According to Sarah, your wedding planning or day-of coordinator should be someone who’s “going to be in your corner, advocating for you on the day of your wedding so you can enjoy the day.”

Your wedding planning or day-of coordinator should be someone who’s “going to be in your corner, advocating for you on the day of your wedding so you can enjoy the day.”

How might a wedding planner “advocate” on your behalf? You have plans, contracts, and a VISION. Your wedding planner will be the one actually making sure these all come to life while you’re sipping on mimosas and basking in that bridal glow!

Remembers, brides-to-be, your wedding day isn’t really all about you. Here’s why.
You’ve probably heard people tell you your wedding day is all about you and what you want, right? Wrong.

You’ve probably heard people tell you your wedding day is all about you and what you want, right? Wrong.

Wait, say what?!

Hear me out.

You’re most likely inviting tons of loved ones to your wedding. That’s probably because they each played some important role in your lives so you want them there on your #BestDayEver.

And while, yes – your wedding day is mostly about you and your partner, it isn’t exclusively about you.

Think of it like Sarah does: “These people made you into the person you are today, who is the person your fiancé loves. Those people are a bigger part of the day than we may realize. You wouldn’t be there, in that place, without them.”

These people made you into the person you are today, who is the person your fiancé loves. Those people are a bigger part of the day than we may realize. You wouldn’t be there, in that place, without them.

We can all cheers to that!

What next?
I’d like to extend a huge Thank You to Sarah for sharing her insight and advice with all of us!

What do you want to read about next? Send a note to justine@beaumade.co with your requests – I’d love to chat with you!

Until next time! xoxo
Justine
Founder, Beaumade